She's Nothing Special
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I've met this girl at the British Council and like, although, she seems really cute, and all, she is just so indifferent to everybody, she is just a normal girl... nothing special, i guess that's what attracts me to her.
Since she's sooooo indifferent, i can't get the guts to like... ask her phone number, or something... cause im really afraid of getting a "what" or a "what for?" question. Even if i try to use the "be interested in stuff that she likes" technique, she like's hard rock and old rock and roll, and im a Dance guy, so i would not go by that way.
i need another way.... but what's that way???
The big problem here is that you think she's "Nothing Special". EVERY single person in the world is special in their own unique way! That is the important part about love - that a person finds another person who feels they are incredibly special. If you feel she's just "ordinary" and "not special", why would she want you to date her?
If you really want to spend time with her, you need to start finding ways in which she is special to you. Otherwise it won't work. Music is just one tiny aspect of a person's hobbies. There are 80 trillion other things that a person can be interested in. It's up to you to find out about them and to find some that you can share. But if in the end all you feel is that she's "ordinary" and "not special", I would move on to another girl. You deserve someone that feels special to you - and SHE deserves a guy who feels SHE is special.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com