His Beautiful Girlfriend has a Male Friend
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
i am 24 years old i have fallen in love lot of times but this times its diffrent the women i love is very beautifull..I am very insecure i have stoped meeting other girls i dont like her to talk to any guy excpect me sometimes i feel i am being very harsh to her by doing this ous she has a very friendley nature due to nature of her she has been sexually abused.And she has a guy who her friend since school days and being a old friend he think he can do anything with her he asked her for a night long times ago..She thrust him a lot which make me go wild i have spoken to that guy and told him to stay away..Sir i am very tensed please help..She says she loves me she does everything under the sun to make me happy but sir i am very insecure i dont want to lose her at any cost can tell a way how can i be nice to her how i can make her mine for the rest of my life please sir help me out
First, if you want to be with her for the rest of your life, you want to be *together* as a team. She won't be "yours" like a possession. To tell one of her great friends to stay away from her is NOT being a good partner! Your aim should be to love your partner, to want her to be happy and to support her in her hobbies, her friendships and her passions. Telling one of her best friends to get lost is about as anti-supportive as you can get.
Every human needs friends to talk to. They need friends that are both male AND female. Yes, undoubtedly she is beautiful. Every one of us shines in our own unique way. But that doesn't mean that you should lock her up in a cage as your own little private treasure and not trust her. Trust is the core and foundation of every relationship. If you don't trust her to have male friends because she's "too pretty", something is wrong in the relationship. You need to trust her because she is *your partner* regardless of her being pretty or not pretty.
Your insecurity is within you, and it will destroy your relationship if you continue to do things like deliberately drive away her friends. Please talk to a priest or minister or therapist or whoever you enjoy talking with, and find ways to work through this issue. Otherwise your relationship, if she ends up staying once you've destroyed her friendships, will be very unhappy.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com