She's an Emotional Rollercoaster
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hello. I finally met a new girl, but she's 29, and I'm 23. In all honesty, is that too much of an age difference?
Not to mention, she acting very strange lately. For the first few weeks, she was a very fun, outgoing, happy person. She would call me a few times a day, always wanted me to come see her, and would visit me at my job..etc. She even told me after like 3 weeks, she would prefer if I didn't date anyone else.
She told everyone about me, her mom, her friends, etc. She was even a little upset, I didnt tell my parents about her yet. Basically, she was really into me. Then last week, we got into a little argument, and she said things were going to fast. I couldn't believe she was saying this, considering she seemed so agressive in the aspect of us getting together. Anyway, now she isnt as outgoing, she is very moody, and doesnt want to hang out as much. This has been going on for about 2 weeks.
I'm not hurt, I mean, we've only been seeing each other a little over a month...just very confused how someone could change so much, so fast..you know. Like jeckle and hyde.
Are all woman this weird?
Lots of people date with age differences of 10 years or more, so a mere 6 isn't much at all. And it sounds like as far as emotional maturity goes, you are probably older than she is.
It could easily be something like hormones - some women have extreme swings between highs and lows each month and it could be that you're seeing those mood swings. It could also be that she loves the rush of new love but then gets depressed by the ongoing work that a relationship involves. So then she dumps the guy and goes on to the next new relationship. You might want to ask her about her previous relationships and see if there's any pattern.
All human beings have their ups and downs, their highs and lows. Hers do seem more extreme than usual. You need to figure out if this is a temporary rollercoaster or if your life with her would be like this constantly.
-- from Jenn
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