I Want my Ex Back
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
LAST YEAR I DATED THIS GUY FOR 9 MONTHS. AND LAST SUMMER MY FRIEND G (who is a girl) ASKED HIM TO HELP AT THIS FIREWORK STAND THAT SHE HAS. WELL, WHAT DID I CARE RIGHT? WE WEREN'T DATING ANYMORE BUT SHE KNEW THAT ME AND HIM STILL LIKED EACH OTHER.
WELL ANYWAYS THE RUMORS STARTED FLYING AROUND. THEN WERE PROVEN TRUE THIS SCHOOL YEAR. HE !HAD! TOLD HER THAT HE LIKED HER THIS SUMMER. SO YOU MUST KNOW HOW MUCH THAT TORE ME UP AND BROKE MY HEART. WELL NOW THEY HAVE BEEN SPENDING SO MUCH TIME TOGETHER. AND I'VE TALKED TO HER ABOUT IT BUT EVERYTHING SHE SAYS THAT HE SAYS IS A COMPLEATE LIE! AND YOU MUST KNOW THAT LAST YEAR WE WERE SUCH GOOD FRIENDS AND HE WOULD ALWAYS GO OVER TO HER HOUSE TO BE WITH ME...NOW ITS LIKE HE GOES OVER THERE TO BE WITH HER.
JUST 5 DAYS AGO WE BARELY STARTED TALKING AGAIN. AND THEN I FOUND OUT THAT SHE ASKS ONE OF MY FRIENDS IF ME AND ADAM ARE GONNA GET BACK TOGETHER AND WHEN MY FRIEND SAID SHE DIDNT KNOW G SAID "WELL THEY BETTER NOT" SO YOU KNOW HOW MAD THAT MADE ME! AND SHE HAS JUST BEEN TALKING $HIT.
NOW I'M TO THE POINT WHERE I WANT TO POP HER IN HER FACE! AND I'VE TOLD HER THAT. PLEASE HELP ME FIND SOMETHING TO HELP ME OUT! I'M STILL SO MUCH IN LOVE WITH HIM AND CRY MYSELF TO SLEEP BECAUSE OF THEM TWO. AND HE SAYS HE STILL DOES HAVE FEELINGS FOR ME BUT... HE'S LIKE YOU KNOW...STILL HANGING AROUND THAT SLUT. PLEASE HELP! THANKS SO MUCH!
Wait a minute, you need to take a step back here. This guy is your EX. That means that you are NOT DATING him any more. That means he is free to date someone else. Why are you upset that he IS dating someone else, and that she is happy? Why are you actively threatening her? When you broke up with him, did you figure that he was still your property and could never touch another girl again?
You really need to stop obsessing about this guy. It is ruining your life. You broke up with him, he's part of your past, and what he does now is his own business. You have to accept that and move on. If you keep obsessing about him and getting yourself worked up about him, you're never going to move on and find someone who IS great for you. He isn't right for you. If he WAS right for you then you wouldn't have broken up.
So take a deep breath. Put him into your past. Get together with your friends and go out and have fun, go out to movies, get into your favorite hobbies. I have lots of tips about getting over a guy here -
You need to put time and effort into moving on with your life. What your ex and his new girlfriend do shouldn't concern you at all. You should be concerned about what YOU will do to make YOU happy.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com