I want to be with just him
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I've been friends with this guy and the attraction is obvious. He flirts and I respond as well . I was waiting for him to ask me out.
He has, but has arranged a trip and told me his ex will also be coming and other of his friends. He tells me that she is just a friend but never told me that he had a relationship with her.
I know he is still good friends with his ex. I am not interested to join them, I feel it will be awkward to be with a guy I want to start a relationship with as well as his ex next to us. How should I turn down politely this offer and make him arrange something where we will be just the two of us only. Please help.
Several things are strange here. First, why are you sitting around waiting for him to ask you out? Are you incapable of using the phone or email? :) This isn't the 1500s. Girls ask guys out most of the time. Girls are better at arranging things than guys are most of the time. Why are you sitting by the phone waiting around for him to arrange your life for you?
Next, you are picking and choosing what you are willing to do with this guy. Who cares if his ex is around? Most guys are friends with their exs and most girls are too. It's a normal part of life. If you are going to refuse to be around any of his female friends then your life is going to be rather rough. He wants to have fun. Fun involves friends of his. You should be interested in time you spend with him - not on setting requirements of "only us two alone" or "nobody else within 10 square miles".
If you want to be with him, then be with him. Don't obsess about who else will be around. One of the most important life lessons to learn is that it matters NOT AT ALL who else is around or what they think or say or do. All that matters is you and your darling, and how you two feel about each other.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com