I abandoned him - how do I get him back?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I want my boyfriend back. We broke up almost 2 years ago because i got mad for a very stupid reason. We had been dating for 3 years and I left and immediately started seeing someone else.
He still calls me when I page him he talks to me quite frequently but what do i need to do to get him back.
It sounds like things were seriously wrong if you two were able to break up so quickly. A relationship that is solid and great doesn't fracture like that just because of one small issue. Even more importantly, if you two were able to break apart from one small issue, he now doesn't have much faith that if you DID get back together that you would be there for him during the normal ups and downs of life. ALL life has its ups and downs and what makes a relationship last is its ability to stick together though those. If you abandoned him during just a small glitch, how can he trust you to survive with him through the real problems life throws at you?
You need to prove to him that you have learned from your mistake, that you've grown and are ready for a real relationship now. So show him that in real life. Be his friend, start spending time with him, doing things with him, spending time with him. Show him that you can be his best friend, talk to him, be with him, care about him without any "strings". When you guys grow closer together, he will trust you more and you guys can consider dating again. But it's important to build up that trust first, so he knows that this time will be different from the last time.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com