Eloping to Baltimore
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
My fiance is in the military and able to come home on weekends (only). We are going to elope very soon. The "Vegas Thing" is unappealing, we would like to get married in Baltimore, but I'm not sure how quickly this can be done and if it CAN be done it has to be the weekend of November 8th to the 11th, as he is not able to get time off during the week. Not sure how to find what I need as far as info and time is of the essence. Please Help!
Just as an aside, you can have an INCREDIBLY beautiful wedding in Vegas. Just think, they have poured gazillions of dollars into those landscapes and fountains, the multi-tier swimming oasisses and authentically tiled interiors. You can probably have a wedding there that is more beautiful than anywhere else in the world if you want. So don't discount that just because they have Elvis Impersonators. That's just the low end of the list.
But anyway. Let's say you want to marry in Baltimore. You have to get a marriage license and many states require you to be a certain age, get blood tests, file 2 weeks in advance and so on. So you need to check with the state of Maryland to find out what the regulations are. They'd be at www.state.md.us.
Also, remember, marriage is *forever*. You should be really really sure that you can *live day in and day out* with this guy - through all the bad times - before you say that you will. He shouldn't just be someone that you know on fun weekends, he should be someone that you've been through "real life" with, dealt with in cranky mornings and long slow evenings and everything else. It's very easy to think someone is perfect if the time you have together is the "escape from real life" on weekends and vacations. But when that person IS your real life, you might find your relationship is *very* very different. And now you are stuck for your entire life.
If this is truly a life-long commitment, there should be no reason to race into it. You already have the rest of your lives, and you're already in a relationship, so rushing to 'tie the knot' is almost saying that you have to do it quickly before you change your mind. Please really put serious thought into this.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com