How do I find out if she is cheating?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
I'm wondering if my girlfriend is cheating because since school has started, from time to time, she is not reachable. Her stories don't add up and we don't have that kind of relationship that we don't know where eachother is. I just really want to know if she is cheating behind my back before I go crazy. What do I do to find out if she is cheating?
There is no guaranteed way to catch someone at cheating. But if you are having serious issues of trust then the relationship is already pretty much destroyed. A relationship is about trusting the other person, caring for them, loving them and honoring them. If you are constantly assuming that the other person is lying to you then the whole basis of the relationship is gone.
It sounds like you know this girl well and know that these problems are not just circumstances - that there is a real issue going on. That you know she's cheating and just want to be able to rub it in her face that you do know for sure.
Your only purpose for catching her would be to break up with her. So if you are at that point, then I would tell her this isn't going to work. She is doing things that make you doubt her and not keeping the relationship solid. You deserve someone that you trust and who trusts you. It is time to find that person.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com