Dating for 2 months - she wants to restart
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
About two months ago I started dating a girl who had been my friend for 2 years. I had not seen her for 6 months then we touched base again and 2 weeks after we started hanging out again we became girlfriend/ boyfriend.
2 months into the relationship we are now taking a "break". Though, this break is different then ones other people had described. The way she described the "break" as more resembles restarting. Is it healthy to start from ground-zero when having to bottle my feelings?
That is very bizarre. Any time someone in a relationship asks for a big change in the relationship - no matter WHAT that change is - the other person has a full right to know WHY. And not just vague, nebulous WHYs but a real down to earth rational WHY. She was mature enough to date you! She was mature enough to accept that dating for several months! So if she is now going to say "I am changing the rules" she should be mature enough to explain to you why she is doing that.
She should in fact have told you BEFORE that something was bothering her and what it was so you could find a solution. To wait and wait and then just decide out of the blue "Ha ha ha! New rules! Live with them!" is sort of childish and selfish.
So I would really sit down and talk with her. Tell her that you want her to be happy - but that she has to do a better job of communicating with you if this is going to work. And THE most important thing for her to talk with you about is why she is feeling uncomfortable with how things were.
-- from Jenn
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