She's Looking at Other Guys
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Hey! Im going out with this phenomenal women named Tiff. We've been going out about a year, and I love her very much. And recently, I found out that she looks at other guys, and she told me she finds this guy very attractive. And, Im not gay, but Im not blind either, that guy is way more attractive than me, and my girlfriend is very attractive, and practiacally every guy wants her. I just want to know if its ok for her to think other guys are atttractive. I mean, I could look at other girls, but you know, I dont! And, my train of thought was "Well, If you love me, and I love you, Why do you have to look at other guys?"....I dunno. Im a little confused by this, and Im scared to loose her....Any help would be appreciated!! Thanks!
Ah, I've written this one up already :)
Short answer - everybody appreciates beauty! And humans ARE beautiful. There's nothing wrong with that. If you're going to obsess over her leaving you because someone else is "more X" then you're never going to be happy - because no matter HOW rich or powerful or handsome or anything else you are, there is always someone better.
So you have to ACCEPT that she loves you for your "total package". Period. If you get jealous over any perceived threat, you're going to drive her away.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com