How Do I Date?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girlfriend who i really truly love! The thing is how do i get myself to come out and just hold her hand even though she already said it was ok? And How do i know if she wants me to kiss her or not? she's already kissed me but i don't know if she wants me to kiss her? How am i supposed to know what she wants me to do?
She laughs when i say stuff like "Those pants looked real good on u today" or stuff like dat what am i supposed to do? Please help me ASAP!
There are no rules in dating. Dating is about two people having fun. What is "fun" for any two people is VERY different than for any other couple. So there are no right and wrongs here. What is right is what SHE wants and what YOU want.
So she wants you to hold her hand. Hold it! Go to the movies with her and put your hand on hers. Go walking and take her hand in yours. Sit and watch the sunset and put your hand on hers. It's your hand. You can move it. So do it :)
If she's kissed you it's pretty clear that she thinks kissing is OK. But kissing should NEVER be forced. If you don't feel ready, then don't do it. If you are snuggling on the couch and you DO feel ready, then lean over and do it. If you start forcing yourself to do things because you feel you "should" you are really getting into a dangerous situation that can hurt both of you. That is NOT what a good relationship is about.
It sounds like she enjoys you flirting with her. So flirt :) I have a TON of flirting tips on my site, come read through them :)
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com