I Dated Her a Week - I Cheated On Her
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I was dating this girl for about a week, and it was great ... and then my ex came around, and I did something really stupid. I cheated on my girlfriend with my ex. Then immediately afterwards I broke up with my girlfriend because I felt that was the right thing to do, even though I didn't really want to.
Now realizing that my first ex didn't change at all and breaking things off with her for good, I went to my ex and told her I wanted her back. She seemed to respond well. However, in the time that we were apart she tried to get back with her ex who's a complete tool and started hanging around this kid 2 years younger than her.
Confident me says that even though I cheated on her, I confessed and I'm still a better choice than these clowns.
Realistic me knows that she's extremely indecisive and if she does pick me, it's probably gonna be a while before she does.
I feel like all I can do now is wait, but is there anything else I can possibly do to help the matter?
If you had been with the girl for months or years this would be much easier. You would have built up a proven track record of trust, and this one cheating incident would be a one-time mistake that you could prove was an exception to how you normally are.
Because she only knew you for a week, and within that one week you cheated on her, it's a much harder situation. For all she knows this means you cheat on people weekly and it is your normal way of being. Compared with that, maybe even a tool looks much better.
Also, I have to say, a two year difference is really minor in ages. It is quite fine for her to date someone two years younger than her. That happens all the time.
But back to the issue at hand. You feel you are a good match for her. You feel this one-time hiccup would never happen again and you can be loyal, strong, and someone she can rely on totally.
Now it's time for you to prove that to her. Be there for her. Be communicative. Be strong. Be open to listen without judgement. Be a friend. Offer to go places with her without pressure. Listen to her stories and issues. Offer advice that is nonjudgmental.
The more you can prove - every single day - that you are what she needs, the more she will be drawn to you.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com