He's Coming Back, do I Take him Back?
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I started seeing this guy, things were going really well and then he stopped calling. I was fine with that but I found out the reason he stopped calling was because he looks up to his roomate who brings home a different girl every night. He took up drinking and going out every night in hopes that he would find someone.
Now that he has realized that that wasn't the way to live his life he wants to try things again. Do I take him back?
People get some pretty stupid role models at times and idolize some pretty stupid things. It sounds like he realized just how important a real girlfriend is in life, compared to getting drunk and going to bars. While a 'different girl each night' might seem like fun in a MTV sort of way, when you have a REAL life with pains and sorrows and highs and lows, you want someone there who will really support you, care for you and appreciate you. You don't want a bimbo with bubble gum who goes "Who cares if your father just died! I wanna go out and daaaaance!"
So if you really like him, I would chalk it up to an important lesson learned and give it another try. If he had that need to try it in him, at least he broke up with you to try it and realized it was not for him. There are several guys out there who would have just tried it on the side without bothering to tell you. So if he has the honesty to be straight with you, that bodes well for the future.
-- from Jenn
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com