Should i want her back?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
SO my girlfriend and me were extremely happy with eachother and we had an amazing relationship. We never fought we saw eachother when we could and we always told eachother we loved one another. 5 days after our 10months, The day before we broke up she went to the mall with these 3 guys who she was friends with but she never told me. so when she finally texted me back i was a little weirded out that she told me she went to the mall with them and then went back with them to the ones house. so me and her really didnt talk that day. the next day, she texted me saying i need a break. which a couple days later turned into were completely broken up. i was shocked and i was heart broken i loved her completely. i asked why this happened and why is she thinking like this? and she told me she had feelings for another guy before me and her dated and she couldnt have feelings for both of us. She also said that she wanted to be bestfriends with me still and that she'd probably be back. Well we talked everyday and it was alright for a bit but then it went downhill and she stopped texting me everyday and she just never talked to me. Once she texted me and she told me the night before she went to a party with this other kid. WHile they were their they made out and did some other things and had sex. Me and her had not had sex during our relationship because we both agreed to have sex when we were both ready and we wouldnt rush into it. Shes not even dating him yet and i was so shocked it seemd that he wa splaying her so being a good friend i said i think hes playing you because guys dont usually not go out with the girl they had sex with and did all this other dirty stuff with. She didnt believe me which i knew she wouldnt well later i found out he was playing her. This guy is like a bad guy cause her parents dont like him, her friends dont like him too much and he smokes and she hates smoke.
Well im the complete opposite her friends liked me alot, her parents were like in love with me, and i didnt smoke cause im an athlete and im a good guy. like my friends have told me im the nicest guy ever and caring but i also can be a bad guy at times when needed and things and she has seen that side of me before.
She stopped talking to me so her bestfriend said send her a text telling her your feelings so i did. She told me though that i have to stop and move on but i sent her those text a month after we broke up. I cant though cause i love her, and she means a lot to me. im always going to be here for her but i love her and i want her back. What should i do? should i stay and wait for her to realize what shes lost or just give up on her? I love her still i wanna give her another chance, shes made mistakes in the past cause she use to have a troubled past but since we started dating and before she changed completely and was a good girl and she hasnt been bad or anything since we dated. I love her and want her back what should i do? Weve only been broken up for a month.
it does sound like you should give up and move on. I know you love this girl, but her heart isn't with you any more. Maybe she is going through a 'bad boy' phase. A lot of girls do that, and it could take years to get it out of their system. In the meantime, it will be best for you to put her out of your head and get active in your other favorite activities. Hang out with your other friends and do things you like to do. The pain lessens over time. Maybe by then this girl will start thinking about how nice you were to her...or maybe you will have someone new who appreciates you right now.
-- from Jill
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