I Don't Know What To Do...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Me and my ex were on and off long distance for about 6 months. And in June, I ended it because I thought he only wanted me for things that I didn't want to do. But yesterday, we got in an argument. And he said he didn't want me for that. But that he DID love me. But he doesn't anymore. And that he doesn't miss me or care about me and then proceded to tell me to text him when I grow up and have something mature to say. And I told him that I had deleted his number when he wasn't being nice. And then he gave it to me again. I'm hopelessly in love with him and I'm confused because if he didn't care about me or miss me like he said he did, why would he give me his number again? And how do I get him back? Because I really do love this boy with ALL of my heart. :c Help?
I am sorry to tell you this, but to quote a popular phrase, he's just not that into you. He likes you enough to want to keep in touch, and seems to be leaving his options open to perhaps try again in a few years, but he is no longer really interested in you that way. :-(
He's covering his bases, just in case. And maybe he likes having someone around who is still pining for him. I am not calling him a bad person - it's certainly nice to feel loved, and surely that is a bit of an ego boost for him.
Basically, he is holding all the cards, and it's not fair for you. You need to take a deep breath and move on with your life. Continue to be friends with him if you can take it without too much torch-carrying. If all you do is think about him, though, you need to cut things off, and focus on doing other things that make you happy.
Go and become a well-rounded person with a full life. In time, maybe that will encourage him to look your way again...but don't make a full life for yourself to prove anything to him. Do it for you.
-- from Jill
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