I think im in love with my Best Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
Well I've known this girl since 6th grade im in 8th grade atm and this year we became best friends and during the last month of school (last month) we got really close like were ALWAYS talking n joking around n we hang out all the time out of school n we cuddle alot n i think i feel in love with her 2 days ago at a party we were in a hot tub together n like sort of kissing not lip to lip but like neck n chest n stuff n ever since then i cant think of anything but her n like when im not with her i feel like really lonely now so i went ovr my other friends house where she slept ovr after the party n i hung out with her there n it just felt right so idk what to do all of our other friends say we alrdy go out n i laugh but she dsnt seem to have any emotion when ppl say it. so idk if i should ask her out or if i should ask one of her friends if she likes me so yeah thx for reading this all srry bout the grammer
This is one of those tricky situations many people encounter in their lives. In fact, the movie When Harry Met Sally is all about that. Male and female best friendships often find themselves in these situations and generally neither side knows what to do about it.
On the one hand, you could bring it up and see how she feels about you. Maybe it would start a new relationship! Or maybe she would feel weird after that and it would hurt the friendship.
You have to decide what is more important to you. The chance of a relationship? Or to not have to possibly make things awkward between you and lose what you have now?
Only you can decide this. Take some time to think about what you really want in the long run. If you do ask, do so yourself and not through her friends, which might come across as immature. Have courage and good luck!
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com