Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
When me and my boyfriend first got together I cheated on him. He forgave me and took me back but we didn't give him time to fullyheal because when we fight he brings it up. We've been together fer 2 years and 2 months. Things started going bad we started arguing over thins that didn't matter. He asked for space because he didn't love me the same anymore and didn't know how to deal. I didn't give him space though because I was scared I was losing him for good. He told me after a few weeks that he did want to work on it but we need time to work on ourselves. Then I kept pushing him with my feelings because he won't express himself. Later he came to me and said he diet want to lose me but he doesn't think we should be together anymore so I was hurt but I left it at that then the next day he told me he does wanna work on it because we do love eachother. But lately I've been pushing and pushing my feelings and I can't seem to stop I know I'm pushing him away but I'm scared because he can hurt me again by playing within feelings. Is it too late or is the damage already done? We agreed to go on a long space with no contact and I'm scared. What if he moves on or gets happy while we don't talk because there's no drama or arguing. I love him with alllllll my heart but now what? Will he come back I leave him alone?
I think the best thing you can do is leave him alone. He seems to respond better to you when you do not push him. In any case, you do not want to come across as desperate, because that is not the foundation for a relationship of equals.
If he comes back, then that is great. And do give him the space he asks for. if he does not come back, do your best to move on, and leave him be.
-- from Jill
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