spooked yet again?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I miss my ex so much. We are perfect together.
Yes like every relationship we had our ups and downs.
But we were kinda sorta on and off for about 3 years.
I was in a relationship, when I met her.
She wasnt looking for anything special, even tho she found it...me.
Eventually I broke up with the girl I was with, in hopes of my true love and I getting together.
We did. And it was amazing. Got engaged. Moved into an apartment together.
Eventually, I started feeling bad about the way I broke up with the other girl.
I asked her to come hangout at our apartment.
The girl I was with at the time wasnt fond of the idea but went with it because she knew I couldnt live with myself if I didnt.
Eventually the love of my life broke up with me, for my other ex. They have been together for about 4 months.
Doing the hole 'iloveyou' thing.
I know it cant be real. Me and the love of my life still hangout together, work together on a daily.
Still act like were ...together?
But should I give up?
She still loves me, admits to it.
But if she hasnt came back now...will she?
Wow, you are in a really painful situation. I am sorry you have to be experiencing this.
I don't think trying to get back together with either of them sounds like a good idea. There is a lot of pain here, and baggage. I would imagine there would be anger and trust issues to work through as well.
Staying as friends - since you work together - might be the sanest solution for you. Obviously, if you choose to remain friends, you will need to find a way to resolve your feelings and move on.
There is a lot of information on Romance Class in how to get back together with your ex, including an ebook on the topic, should you wish to pursue this direction. It will probably equal more pain for you, however, in the long run.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com