Sincerly, Totally and utterly confused...
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
Me and my ex boyfriend seemed like we had everything going for us, I really did feel very strong about and still do. I don't really know how things got to where we are because literally on day everything was perfect we were joking around cuddling playing having a great time at my house and then I leave for a day to go do some out of town work and I come back to message that he's so sorry he doesn't want this to happen because he is so in love with me but he need his time to figure "somethings out" and he wants me to understand. He tells me if it was meant to be then it will but just not right now. I am completly heart broken especially that I would have NEVER expected something like this from him. I just want to know if the possibility of rekendaling this relationship is even in the cards for us? Can I get my ex back? Or is it a lost cause and there's alot he's not telling me? I just want him back more then anything but I don't want it to become a vicious cycle of breaking up and getting back together I don't think I'm emotinally ready to deal with something that's straining...
I think you know inside how much it would hurt you to be on and off with him like a roller coaster. Some people never figure out how to make this painful kind of ride end. I'd take a deep breath and move on.
Sometimes people DO get back together and make it work, but it does not happen when only one person has all the power in the relationship. Right now, he has all the power.
Move on and be the best, happiest you possible. If you are meant to be together, it will have to be much later in the game - maybe after a few other boyfriends - when you are not nursing the hope that he will "take you back."
-- from Jill
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