does he love me or does he just want a fling?
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
i met this boy about 4 weeks ago and at first it was very awkward because we had only just met ( we met through my best friend, she said he was a player i beleived her at first but then...). we went to the movies with a bunch of mates adn the to this park and it was still very awkward. then we went to this park just us two and we had so much fun we laughed and joked and got to know each other really well and by the end of night we pulled. the next day we went to the park again, the same thing happened and the same thing happened again the next day wich was christmas eve ( my friend said that was so romantic, we pulle don x mas eve :) ) then he said he loved me i said it back becuase i didnt want him to not speak to me if i said i didnt love him and anyways i thort he was just having a laugh, and it went on like that for a couple more days, but then i started to think is this all that its gonna be because a few weeks had past and he hadnt officialy asked me out yet so i asked him if he would aske me out some time in the future, he said he needed to sort some stuff out, the 3 days after that we hadnt talked for a while and then when we did finaly start talking again it didnt seem the same like on facebook we used to put like pages and pages of 'x' at the end of each sentence and now he doesnt.
i really like him and i just hope i havnt ruined everything by asking if we are going to be an item. he said to me he didnt want me to tell anyone that we pulled,
i guess what i want to know was he telling the truth when he said he loved me or am i just a fling and all he likes me for is pulling or is he just confused of his feelings and i shud just wait a while????
I think he doesn't know what he wants. If you moved really fast together, both physically and emotionally, then he might be confused about how complicated things got. Honestly, he does not seem to want a relationship.
These kinds of painful things happen when people rush in too quickly. Let him chase you down if he wants, but the smartest thing for you is to move on to a fresh potential relationship...and remember to take things slowly.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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