Long Distance Love Issues
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi, I met a girl a year and a half ago. And we have been keeping contact since then. We get along like no one else. We chat with camera and microphone (which i especially bought to chat with her). The thing is: we literally live on the other side of the world. We have 8 hrs of difference. I specially wake up for her at the morning and she stays up for me, so we can chat. When i chatted with her, my day is good. I would spend the night through, chatting with her. Our chat's have been most fun for both of us.
Recently, she starts to ask me every chat if and when i would go to her country on the other side of the world so we can meet in person. I always said that i was still to young to fly to there.
Ever since she first asked me, i've been thinking. I thought that there would be a very big chance of us falling in love when we meet. After a while, i finally grabbed all the courage i needed and said: *name*, I think that when we meet, we will fall in love.
She seemed to smile at it, but i don't know her true thoughts about it. since then, she has been teasing me by telling me we would be a great couple, and may be the perfect couple.
I truly feel happy about that thought =D.
but... If we eventually meet in person, and we do fall in love. Then what?
I can't leave my home country because i'm to attached to it and i don't want her to leave her everything and return with me.
I thought about stop talking to her, but i just can't, and if we continue talking, the urge of meeting will grow, and if we meet, there is a chance that we will fall in love and eventually get a big heart break :s
plzz tell me, what should I do ?
thnx for your time
In our modern world of the internet it's VERY common for people across the globe to fall in love. So take heart, you are not alone. Many, many people face this exact same issue. I know people who moved from Australia to the US to be with the one they loved, who moved from the US to the Philippines, and so on. So this does happen and it can work out.
I would not worry about the long term ramifications right now. That is, yes right now you feel attached to your home country, and that is fine! But it could easily be that once you spend time with her and her country that you come to adore it even more and look forward to being there. Or it could be that when she visits your country that she adores it and she dreams about living there. I know it might be hard to imagine right now, but these things to happen. A person who grew up in Texas and absolutely adores it might visit Alaska and realize that Alaska is THE perfect place for them to live. We all have changes in life and that is fine. It is part of how we learn and grow.
So don't worry about that "where will we live" issue yet. If you have a great relationship, treasure it. If you want to meet in person, then enjoy the excitement of meeting in person. See how that goes before you worry about any distant steps.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com