Gay and Dating
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
I am a male that likes both males and females. There is this one boy at my school that is very shy and introverted. When I see him in a class room he will look at me and then look away. He also seems to look at me more than once. He is self-proclaimed straight on networking sites but I'm just not sure.
I have a huge crush on this person and really don't know how to go about talking to him or finding out his sexuality. I'm sure this is possibly not a problem you can help with, because you do not know this person personally, but I just wanted to try my options.
It's definitely more challenging to try to date when you're gay. There are the added hurdles of society to deal with. Society is quite happy to handle heterosexual dating. It can be less happy about homosexual dating. So it's good to be a little cautious.
I would start just by thinking about becoming friends. It's quite normal and accepted for guys to be friends. So make normal overtures that you would with a friend. Talk about music you like, movies you like, and so on. If you have video games, invite him over to play some. Think of normal friend activities that you could do.
Over time as you get to know each other better you'll get a sense if his interests are more serious. But by starting out as friends, you can take that slowly.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com