My Ex is Ignoring Me
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I broke up with my ex a month ago after being sick of how he treated me. One day he would be totally in love with me then he'd ignore me for days and never return my calls. It was too tiring. So I broke up with him but miss him so much.
We haven't spoken in a month and I sent him a letter explaining how I felt about 3 weeks ago but he has never replied.
I don't call him or text him, which everyone says will make him want me, but he's made no attempt to get into contact with me.
I saw him yesterday and he completely ignored me and wouldn't come anywhere near me so I have no idea how to talk to him or get him back?
I'm so confused.
I know breaking up with someone is a very challenging thing, and it's completely natural that you miss him. Your mind focuses on the good parts, and not on the bad parts. You wish you had someone there in your life to do things with.
However, you need to give yourself time to get through the break-up pain so you can look at this with a more steady mind. Let's list again what the issues are:
* When he was with you, he'd ignore you for days and not return your calls.
* After you broke up, you tried to talk with him and he ignored that.
* You tried NOT talking with him and he ignored that.
* You saw him in PERSON and he ignored you.
I think it is time to take a step back and realize that he simply has other interests. It is hard to accept that certainly - but it is also fine in the grand scheme of things! There are BILLIONS of people on the planet, and each of us has different interests. We all have changing interests, too. What we like in one year could be vastly different than what we like in another year.
So I think you should give yourself time, let yourself heal, and then find a guy who DOES fully care for what you offer - someone who deserves you. He's out there, waiting for you.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com