I'm in Love with my Best Friend...
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Female
Hello RomanceClass.com and other members reading this! I have a situation that I think will relate to what a lot of people are going through or have been through.
I'm in love with my best friend. We've been friends for about four years and had our ups and downs like every friendship. We are both on vacation (separately) and I feel like I miss him more than I have ever. But he managed to tell me (a few days ago) a secret about his ex-girlfriend, also mentioning that I'm "the only person he can trust". He also tells me about he thinks other people are attractive, and never saying anything about me (And I'm not that bad looking!).
How can approach the subject to see if he likes me without being incredibly straight forward and not using the words "Who do you like?" or "Do you like anybody?" and if I find out he does like me how do I initiate him to make the first move? Or should I avoid this at all means due to what he tells me about other girls?
It is great that you're in love with someone you are friends with. That is always the best way to begin a relationship! It means you know and can trust him, that you can talk about things with him. That is a perfect foundation.
The best way to do this is the slow steady way so that you can always "reverse" without destroying the friendship if you have to. So go to the movies if you aren't already. Go out to dinner. Most best friends are doing these things already anyway, so that shouldn't be a big stretch.
Then, choose a romantic movie one of the times. Hopefully he'll give in to see it with you. During the movie lean against him. See how he reacts :) If he is stand-offish, no big deal! You can just say you were swept away by the movie, and life goes on!
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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Tell him you like him