I Need to Hear I Love You
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Well i have been going out with this guy for a month now. We known each other since a year now . But he has always liked me since meeting me but never could ask me out cause he had a girlfriend already. He has broken up with his girlfriend, so he has asked me to be his new girlfriend. I told him maybe and get to know him first even though we have been talking to each other for a whole year. But it was just hi and bye though.
So i went over to his house and we talked but that's it. Then we talked about our past relationships. So after going to his house we text each other and he would call me.
One day i went over his house and we hanged out. And then he gave me our first kiss and he would cuddle me up and kiss me in my neck and be a boyfriend. It came to the point where he gave me a hickey and we had sex. But he would ask me if it would be okay to do whatever he once. After that we would text and stuff. But he has never told me he loved me.
I asked him if he likes me for real and he would give me the answer : how long have i been trying to talk to you. Which is true. Since the beginning of the year hes been working in me.
But i'm confused... does he really like? And should i believe him?
I'm not sure what you're waiting for here - a marriage proposal? The guy has been chasing you for a year. He talks to you regularly. He is intimate with you. He spends time with you. Those are all signs that a person has a strong relationship with you.
Many people feel that it is only appropriate to say "I love you" to someone they are actively in the process of marrying. That the words are inappropriate until that stage. Since you're not at the marriage stage yet, I wouldn't worry about him saying those exact words. He is showing you clearly through his actions and caring that you are dear to him.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com