Is he a player?

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well its about a guy ive been dating. hes 24 and im 18. He has a baby but not with the baby's mama, Ok Well the guy im with he seems like a little player but then again i dont know. He says he wants to settle down and what not. Everytime hes mad cause somethinq his brothers did or his baby's mama did he always says that he is the way that he is because of his baby's mama. Well any who a few days ago i found out he started talkin 2 his ex girlfriends. He tells me she says she still has feelinqs for him & stuff(she has a bby&bf) but he doesnt feel the same so he says. So we went 2 the park wed. & uh he kept talkin bout how his ex qirlfriend would buy him stuff & what not. Then he was textin her right in front of me, he said her numb is still saved under "Jays Girl"(he had a smerk on his face while sayin it) but then when he saw that i was qettin jealouse he started sayin "babe im just playinq. 4real" i did tell him to stop textinq her cause he was with me & he did so now i really dont know what to think or do. then friday he didnt call or text me in all day the later on that night we got into a argument then things calmed down we were texting until saturday, 2 in the morning, since then he hasnt called or text. Do you tthink you can help me? Sorry for so much, Idk if im just over reacting or what cause i was in a relationship for 5yrs and i went thru hell and back. idk. help please. if you didnt understand im sorry Advice
No need to apologize, you stated your case very well. You sound like a sweet girl and therefore I'll be straight with you. This guy is not worth it. He doesn't want to settle down, he wants to keep playing without paying. How does he treat his baby? Does he support this child? Is he there to put the baby to bed at night or there to help the mother with all the laundry and work that goes into raising a youngster? If the answer is no to all these questions then you need to run away as fast as you can. This loser doesn't care about anyone but himself.

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