What do I do? Does he just have a crush or just messing around??
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I have known this guy for a while but have bumped into
him way before (without knowing of course). We had first met while on a school trip to a national museum and his friends were hitting on me.
He said nothing and just looked while I was studying one of the displays. He is a shy guy, very considerate and all. I had turned around and called him and his group of friends
disgusting and left. Now he had found my facebook through a mutual friend and added me and started to talk to me. seeing that I had never answered and ignored his first hello, he said hi again a few days later. I said hi and we started talking from there. I usually take long to reply to some of his texts. Two weeks after that we hung out once with my friend.
After my friend had left, it was very quiet and and he moved over next to me. I thought it would end in a kiss but nothing happened. Later on I found out not only has he been flirting with me and had a girlfriend, but he liked me ever since that day he saw me on the trip and even says he likes me still. He is not a flirty person towards girl especially since he likes being faithful.
I dont love him or even see him as cute, just someone I could possibly date. I feel bad for his girlfriend, should I even be involved with him anymore?? And if I should, how should I act towards him now?
If you feel bad for his girlfriend that should tell you what to do. Don't let this go any farther. I think the fact that you feel bad for his girlfriend shows a great deal of character on your part. You're obviously a nice person who deserves a nice person. Being a part of cheating isn't nice, on either end, yours or his.
-- from Jill
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