how do i convince her?

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this girl and me were together since we were 13...unfortunately i dumped her about two times a year ago...but she admitted she still loves me and i feel the same way

i know i have made my mistakes but i wanna make up to her and make this work. but now she has some serious trust issues. more than that...shes afraid to commit because she might get hurt again. and she doesn't wanna seem like a toy for me to come and go whenever i want.

i respect her and i have apologized for the past (she forgave) and tried to tell her i have changed...but she doesn't believe me.

i was just wondering how can i show her that shes not just a toy for me...but a very important person in my life...and that this time i m back for real and not the not-caring person i was a year ago... Advice
You know the old saying, action speaks louder than words. You can ask her out to a special place, bring her flowers, open the car door for her, so all the things a respectful man would do. But you're going to have to do this more than once. You need to be consistent with your kindness and affection. You admit you've hurt her. For some people it takes longer for wounds to heal, and since by your own admission you've done this more than once to her, don't expect her to come around too quickly. Try reversing the situation, if she'd dumped you several times how quickly would you go running back to her?

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