4yrs together one day its gone can it be again

Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Male
i was my ex 4 yrs. we did alot together an all of our fight were little fights. i aggravated her but i also gave her everything under the moon. we took trips all over. her and her kids never wanted for anything. after a night of me drinking i accused her of cheating an yelled at her saying hurtful things. we broke up but still hung out. i kept pressureing for more an when i didnt get my way we fought hard. she said she had thought about giveing in a couple times but we would fight and she would change her mind. we havent spoke in 20 days on the phone emails only so now i m wondering is she gone for good and should i just stop emailing her alltogether an see if she trys contacting me, i m scared if i stop everything she will forget me she seems very cold hearted right now and that scares me more than anything...

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It sound like you have an anger issue and so does she. Here's one thing to keep in mind: the children. You can't keep bouncing in and out of their lives. If you truly do want to have a relationship with this woman then both of you need to work out your problems, with no drinking, yelling or accusation. Did you have proof that she was unfaithful or was it just the alcohol? You need to think about how much you want to be with her? Is it enough to give up drinking, to be more trusting and most of all to be a good father to her children. They should be the most important part of this decision you need to make. It isn't easy to be a father to another man's child. Think very carefully about this and if you think that you do care enough to be a better person then show her by actions instead of words.

-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com

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