Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
This is it... One of my close friends in school and I got in touch after five years..! Exchanged numbers and everything.. Whenever we used to hang out,he made sure that I was taken care of and stuff and treated me kinda special than the other girls in the group! Thats like,he left a game he was playing and came to send me off when I was about to leave and all..! Then I had to move out of that city..After I did,he was the only one who always kept in touch and I gradually started to have feelings for him.. In the middle I was busy with college and stuff and he too didn't call frequently..But then he was the one who called me 12 at night on the Newyear's day to wish a fabulous year..I was really touched..
One day while text him saying that I kinda like him and have a crush on him.. He was like,he likes me too but more as a friend..! I took it easy coz this was something I was prepared for.. I told him that I jus wantd to b honest about how I feel about him.. He kept re-assuring me that he always likes me and all.. But then now its tough for me to be "just friends" wid him.. All I think is about him and nothing else.. But he has not avoided me or anything after I told him this..He has been like his old-self only..!!
Did I oversee things or does he really like me?! And its oay if you can't comprehend this properly..!! I dnt knw how to behave whn I am with him and I am meeting him in a week...!! How should I act?! Like be normal or keep rubbing it in?!
I think he truly does value your friendship. You tell me that he was the only person from your old neighborhood who kept in touch with you and he called you on New Years Eve to wish you a happy new year. That shows that he does care for you. You go on to say that even when you told him that you have a crush on him he still continues to treat you as a good friend. Even though he doesn't have 'romantic' feelings for you he continues to value your friendship. Accept that you may never be more than friend, but often times in life, a good friendship is worth more than a romance. When you meet him next week, be normal, don't 'rub' anything in.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com