we aren't broken up, but he's lost interest in me. how do i get him re interested?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
well my and my boyfriend were such a happy couple. we had that rush of a new love thing going on just like any normal couple. we have our problems like any normal couple. but the problem is that he claims sometimes i annoy him because i do "stupid stuff" like i think i'm always right or i never admit when i'm wrong. and he says that i'm dumb sometimes and i act dumb and that i embarrass him. plus he doesn't always appreciate me and the things i do for him. we also agree on the fact that all our little problems are a result from the fact that i lack common sense sometimes, but the thing is i just see things in one way and he sees it in another. so if i don't think something is a big deal apparently it is to him. i really believe we are two different people and see things differently but he thinks that's just an excuse and i'm saying that to take the easy way out. it wasn't like this before, everything was as close to perfection as it could be. but now the problem is that after all these problems and fights have been going on he has just lost all interest in me. we are still together but i'm afraid it won't last. we are trying to make this work but he doesn't put in any effort and i have been changing so much. and i have to be careful of what i say to him because he gets mad easily. so how do i rekindle our past love? i know we really loved each other and once you have an attraction towards a person you will always have that same attraction but idk what to do to get him to realize i'm the girl for him and that he really loves me. we have no good conversations, we don't have fun, everything is just awkward now cuz we know what our relationship has come to. please help me out. and soon!
It is not true that once you have an attraction to someone you'll always have that same attraction. Why on earth would you want to be with someone who tells you that you lack common sense, you're dumb, and you do stupid stuff that embarrasses him. There's absolutely nothing you can do to gain his love. If you gave him a kidney or pulled him from a burning building he'd say, thanks, then go on to tell you how stupid you are. Find someone who can appreciate your personality. This guy is not your 'forever' guy and be thankful for that. You can do so much better. Find a guy who enjoys your company, with whom you laugh and have fun with. Time to move on.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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