How to date a recently new freind

Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I met this girl several months ago at a church event. I finally got her number several weeks after I met her. Her and I been texting each other off and on. Her and I been on group outings and the other day I ask her about the ex bf cause she mention to me about him on a group outing. From what I understand is that she’s still in love with him and I ask her about if it possible for someone else could come into her life and she was like, “I refuse to date anyone and will not date until my old chapter is closed”. I can't do one on one “hang outs” with her because she is uncomfortable in general about being alone with guys on a date. She has a lot of guy friends and it makes me feel uncomfortable and kind of jealous at times. I know it’s going to take time but how would I eventually get to point of friendship where I can actually ask her out and if she’s willing too? Advice
I am feeling like this won't work out for you. The girl in question is not ready for a new guy friend, whether platonically or romantically. If she's not ready then you have to realize there's nothing you can do about it. It speaks well for her that she is able to be honest about it. By respecting her wishes, she might decide to look you up later. In the meantime, try to meet new girls - ones who are emotionally ready to be close to you in the way you want. Good luck!

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