My freind and I got close but it didn't happen
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Sorry if this is kind of long, well a few months ago I was on msn with a freind and told her that I like her, she didn't feel the same way and said she wanted things to stay the same for now. She's a wonderful girl so I was happy just being freinds despite wanting more. Fast forward 2 months, I still like her and she admits she feels the same way but she's confused because she doesn't want to risk our freindship and hurt me so I give her time to think but all our friends tell her to hurry up and under the pressure she gives up and says no. She said had she had more time to think then maybe, but to be honest I don't think she would of taken the risk there were too many factors like living quite far away from each other and her moving further away next year. She was looking at the long term while I looked at the short term.
Maybe we should focus on being friends and I like her more than she likes me but I think she's perfect. We only went through this last week but my friends are trying to set me up to lose my V and she's going along with it too. She seems to be over me already. Obviously I want her and no girl would be the same and trying again would bring pressure on our friendship and I should just move on but I don't want to but at the same time I donít want to put her through that pressure again.
I hate to say this, but it sounds like she really is not into you. If she was very interested, then nothing would stop her. The fact that she is ambivalent at best does not bode well for a relationship that would be fulfilling for you. I think you will have to move on in your heart. Take a deep breath and let her go. And do not allow your friends to push you into losing your virginity, either. Having your first experience with a girl you love is something that only happens once in your life. Good luck!
-- from Jill
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