why do his exs always need him
Visitor's Question from a 41-50 year old Male
hi iam in a gay relationship and my partner has had many exs. they always seem to want or need him for something such as help with work or him doing work for them. he already deals with some of his exs and has done for a few years and even his best friend is an ex. im not bothered about the exs he deals with now but its the exs that have just come out of the blue wanting something and he always feels abliged to do it. i never tell him he cant do it i give him the option but tell him id rather he didnt do what ever they want.on some occasions he wont do it but will then bring it up if we argue. my main question is how do i deal with this am i wrong for not wanting him to go round there houses to do what ever they want ?????? please help
Does he help people other than his past boyfriends? If he does, then maybe he's just the kind of guy that likes to help others. If his help extends to only his exes then you may have a problem. Do you trust him? Sounds like this guy has a lot of ex boyfriends with issues, which you may not want to have to deal with for the rest of your life. Might be time to move on.
-- from Jill
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