what do i do??
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
i am really confused. i've been best friends with the same guy for about two years, and i used to like him. he used to say he just thought of me as a sister, so i moved on. i found an awesome guy(i thought) but my friend would always say he was a jerk to me. which he actually was. there was a tiny part of me that still had feelings for my friend. i always said that if he were to all the sudden like me, i'd dump my bf. so one night he told me he did but didnt want to saying anything cuz i had a bf. so i actually did break up with my bf for him. i also turned down two other guys for him cuz i like him so much. but there's a catch! he wanted me to ask him out. and i was like okay whatever. so i had it all planned, but i wanted to wait a while of course. he kept asking why i didnt do it yet. i told him i was a little worried about ruining our friendship, but that i would. so i was about to today, and he said he wants to stay friends for now because he's afraid he'll end up hating me like all his other exes. i dont know what to do cuz i waited so long for him and now i am confused. i'd seriously do anything for him. how do i try to make sure we'll still be friends? how do i convince him i wont hurt him? its so weird now just trying to be friends after talking about it. help :(
Staying friends seems to be the best and safest thing for both of you. Put everything that has been said or done behind you and just enjoy the friendship. Really good friends are hard to find, especially ones of the opposite sex.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com