Should I wait or just move on?
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Ok so i was in a relationship with girl for 3 years. About a month ago she told me she really needs space and wants to break up. She said she doesnt want to feel tied down and wants the freedom to do whatever she wants, and that we fought too much. I know she had been unhappy with some family issues, personal image, and a few other things. So i gave her space and after a week we talked and she sounded so depressed, saying she thinks she made a huge mistake and shes scared. But then a few days later when she was hanging out with her friends she was a total B*&ch to me. After a while longer she said she still needs space and some time of completely not talking to me to see if she made the right decision or not. MY question is, is she really trying to figure things out or just prolonging the end because shes afraid of hurting me? She swears theres no one else involved(i asked) and there is no evidence of anyone else involved, and i believe her. Should I keep giving her the space she is asking for or give her an ultimatum? I love her very much and was planning on asking her to marry me.
I don't think she's afraid of hurting you since you say that she was a 'total B*&ch' to you so we can rule that out. It appears to me that she enjoys stringing you along. Do you want to spend the rest of your life with someone who wants you one day then treats you badly the next? Just sit back and think about what life would be like with her. You're worth so much more than you think. There's someone out there who'll love you today, tomorrow and the rest of your life. Go find her and leave this girl in her own little world of self importance. Good luck.
-- from Jill
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