I need some support
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I have just ended a nearly five year long relationship. Three years into our relationship and after having been engaged, I discovered he was being very dishonest with me... not only that, he said multiple hurtful things to me. Afterward he tried to explain it away and he tried to comfort me and ease my pain. but I never really got over it, nor did I ever feel like I did before it happened. I was left feeling insecure about myself and with bouts of anger and sadness.
Now I am on my own, and I am finding it hard. I feel like this is the right thing to do, but I also feel like there is this gaping hole in my heart. I loved him with all my heart. I have never been on my own before, I have always been in a relationship, and now, I have no one. I am having trouble sleeping and haven't much of an appetite. I am afraid of being lonely... as much as I hate to admit it. I guess I am just looking for someone who has been through something similar to tell me it will be OK.
You'll be ok. It'll take a little time. Getting someone out of your life is hard, but getting them out of your heart is even harder. Try not to be alone too much. Be with friends and family if you can. Tell people to make you do things with them if they want to help you feel better. Take up a hobby, explore nature or your town: find interesting things to do. Don't watch sappy movies about lost love; stick with comedies, adventure films, good sci-fi and fun summer blockbuster type films. Just know that you're a great person worthy of a great man - not someone who lies and says hurtful things.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com