Long-distance Love vs. Home-base Lover
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
My ex and I broke up because he graduated before me, and I wasn't ready to go long-distance. We're still good friends and would still have lengthy heartwarming chats and/or sexually-stimulating ones even now.
I met a neighbor of mine recently at a party, and he kissed me and asked me out at the spot. I said yes because I had the need to forget my ex, but not because I really loved the new guy. The problem is, I'm apparently his first girlfriend, and I find it cruel to be using him as a tool.
I know I want to be with my ex more than my current boyfriend, but I can't put it into words and tell them. My ex and I know we're both still in love with each other. he's single and I'm serving the one-sided love of my boyfriend.
I don't know if I deserve to be with either one of them. I should be thankful that there's a guy here who loves me, but I just can't really love him back. My ex, though still loves me, may not want a long-distance relationship.
Should I continue as I am right now, or break up with my current boyfriend to be with my ex?
You should let this poor neighbor down gently. There's nothing worse than being used by someone who just wants to try and forget about someone else. If your ex really does love you then a long distance relationship should not be a problem. However, maybe you should just take a little time for yourself and see if you really want to be in a relationship right now.
-- from Jill
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com