I Have Cheated & I want my Ex Back
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
I have cheated on my girlfriend for the third time now and she broke up with me and said she has given me too many chances now and she is not going to give me another chance to be with her.
She said there is nothing I can do or say to her that will change her mind, she said she can never trust me again and she will not take me back at all! She said that she has made her decision and it will stay that way and there is no way on earth even in the future she will ever be with me as she cannot ever trust me again!
She doesn't reply to any of my messages or phone calls, she is just ignoring me!
She wants me to leave her alone forever and she says there is no chance of us getting back together. She said she will never be with me again and she said "that's a promise!" & once she makes a promise she will never break it!
Do you think there is any chance of me to get her back even though this is the third time??? There must be someting I can do??
I would appreciate it if you can help. Waiting to hear from you.
Hi Jatin. This is going to be a hard situation for you, because it's my sense this girl made a good decision to move on. If you have cheated three times, then she has already given you plenty of chances. Trying to get her back won't be showing caring for her, it will only show that you are thinking of your own needs. She made an appropriate decision to protect herself from more pain.
Even if you did end up together again, there is probably too much water under the bridge at this point for a healthy relationship to emerge. I would honor your ex-girlfriend's wishes and leave her completely alone.
My advice is to *think* about what made you cheat so many times. If you want to develop loving, trusting relationships in the future, then you have figure out what is making you be unfaithful. If you are simply not ready for monogamy, then that is fine! Admit it and enjoy being single! Perhaps you will decide you are ready for a lasting, faithful relationship later.
-- from Jill
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