how do i tell her i love her?

Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
well my friend and i have gotten really close and we started dating. we were talking and she said she wanted me to make the first move, like telling her i love her first. i do love her but i am a shy guy, so i won't know when or how to say it. can you give me advice on this???? Advice
If this is your first time saying you love someone, it can be hard to know when to do it. If you are sure it's love you feel, then wait for a special moment. You want this to be something you will both remember!

Think about how you would like to hear those words. For example, maybe plan a special date to see a movie and grab some food after. You can order a luscious desert and share it. Maybe feed each other a spoonful and laugh at how cute/cornball that is. While sharing your yummy desert, tell her you have something to tell her. Then look her in the eyes and simply say, "I love you." If she is too shy to say it back, then just kiss her and say, "I wanted you to know that."

It doesn't have to be a food-based date. You can have anything romantic planned: go for a hike and tell her at a scenic overlook after hugging her. Play some Wii and tell her, after you are both pleasantly tired from the game and are sharing some popcorn on the couch. Come up with a date that you feel like you will both enjoy and be comfortable with. Make sure no one else is around to be distracting.

The important thing is to tell her in those three words (don't beat around the bush), and in person. Don't text it, or email it, or say it in a card. The first time should be face to face, and clearly, simply, honestly stated. Look into her eyes, and hold her hand if you want to. Don't forget to smile. You can do this!

-- from Jill
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