best friends and girlfriends
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
My girl friend used to be my best friend (who was a girl at least) and my guy best friend knew i liked her and that she liked me, so he told me to ask her out. So i did and she said yes. So he sees himself as the father of our relationship. She sees me as her boyfriend and him as her best friend as well. They've gotten really close. I feel like she likes him more than she does me. She spends more time with him than she does me. She talks to him more than she does me. She asks him for help than she does me, even when it's something i'm an expert on. She talks about him all the time. I've brought it up with both of them before and they said i was just being crazy and that nothing is going on. He says why would i try to break you guys up, i put you together. But every time i see her with him and every time she says, "I love you, (insert guy's name that she is talking to)" to any guy it drives me crazy. My mind always creates these scenarios of them being together. Am i wrong to feel this? How do i get rid of these feelings and thoughts?
How much do you trust you instincts? If you do feel strongly that there's more to their friendship than what they're admitting to, then you're probably right. Do you know why they'd deny having feeling for each other? Maybe because both of them value you as a friend. So if that's the case, you need to be a friend to them and step aside. You'll feel better for doing this than hanging on to someone who cares for another guy.
-- from Jill
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