About A Girl
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
Let me just first briefly share the history between me and this girl.
Me and G have known each other for at least 3-5 years, and we were best friends for two years. During that time, G was happily attached to her boyfriend, which she recently broke up with after a 2 1/2 year relationship. Me and G kind of had an affair after I broke up with my ex-girlfriend but G was still with her boyfriend (btw that isn't why they broke up). I fell for G during that time, and it broke my heart knowing that we couldn't be together because G loved her boyfriend more. We still remained friends, but we had an argument right after G broke up with her boyfriend. After not contacting each other for more than two months, we recently started hanging out again with our other friends as we usually do. But we're not at the 'best friends' stage, like we were, yet.
I thought I had gotten over G, and being away from her for a while helped a lot. I value G so much as a friend that I just can't not have her in my life at all. And now, I realize that I am STILL in love with her. I can't help but feel a little jealous when G talks about the guys she's been going out with, even though she says none of them interests her.
The problem is, I have no idea how she feels about me. Apparently, while we were not contacting, G had been keeping track on my updates on Facebook, but she claims she just happened to have read them when they appeared on the main updates page. And she also keeps teasing me if I have a girlfriend, which I don't.
My question is, how do I find out for sure her feelings towards me? And how do I go about making the step up to being more than friends? Should I also ask a mutual friend for advice?
The very best way to solidify any relationship is to spend more time on it. Obviously she likes you, because she talks to you and is keeping track of you. So you need to encourage that feeling.
Spend more time with her. Talk with her more. Have fun with her more. The way to prove you are good together is to BE together. The more fun you have, the more time you spend, the less time she is spending with other people. The more she is realizing and remembering how much fun you are.
So the #1 key is to WORK on it. Make it a priority in your life. If you both really enjoy the time together, it will grow naturally.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com