He's changed all of a sudden...
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
I've known this guy I have a huge crush on for four years. He and I have always gotten along well. so well in fact, that it seems like he has feelings for me too.
Back when we first met, he had asked a close friend of mine questions like 'am I single' or 'am I interested in anyone?' Two years later, my friend later told me about this. That's when I took notice of how he acted differently around me: he would always act jokingly with his friends, but around me, he would become more polite and a little awkward. he would often hug me multiple times, even when we only talked for two minutes. whenever we talked within a group of friends, he would keep most of his eye contact on me. I consulted my friend about it, and she said that she could see that there was something between us.
A little over a month ago, I asked him if he would like to go to a school dance with me. This was my first time asking him to a formal event. Unfortunately, he couldn't go because he had plans. Despite that, we seemed to be growing stronger feelings for each other: whenever we talked, he would sometimes randomly grab my hand, let go, then grab it again. he would lean in closer to me. and he even sent me a random message on Facebook making sure I was still going to the dance. Then, five minutes before the dance started, he called me and told me his plans had been canceled and that, if I was still going, he would go to the dance with me. We went and had a great time together. I noted how I had never seen a guy, not even an old boyfriend, go through so much just to make sure I was okay. I felt for sure we would become a couple.
Then, the week after the dance, he suddenly became distant. Now, whenever we talk, it's always short conversations, and he always seems clammed-up and uneasy. I notice him staring at me from the corner of my eye, but when I turn to look at him, he looks away. I confronted him, asking if I had done anything wrong or if I had upset/angered him at all. He said I had done nothing wrong, smiled and grabbed my hand. I thought this would make things go back to normal, but they haven't. What does this mean? Has he suddenly grown shy and awkward around me, or does he not like me at all? What should I do?
P.S. Sorry this was so long.
Too bad this once blossoming romance seems to be withering.
Maybe he is developing cold feet now that it is his turn to make a move. Perhaps it makes him nervous.
You could keep the ball rolling by finding some event to ask him to... like a basketball game or a concert. There are lots of things happening this time of year. Definitely do not wait until the Holiday season has passed because it gets dull then.
Best of luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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