Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Female
I thought my ex-boyfriend and I were great together. We had been together a little over a year, and had never even had a small argument. Everyone would always tell me how crazy he was about me, and I felt the same way about him. About 2 weeks ago, out of nowhere, he broke up with me. He blamed it on depression, and that there was absolutely nothing wrong with me and there was nothing I had done, he was just having a really rough time and didn't want to bring me down with him, and I deserve more than he can offer. He says he still cares about me and still wants me in his life. But I've been hearing from a lot of people the reason was because he felt things were getting too serious and he wasn't ready to settle down. I'm trying no contact as much as possible, but it's hard. I don't want him to think I don't care about him. I also have to work with him, where he's very friendly and talks to me like none of this ever happened between us. I'm just very confused and desperate to get him back. I feel like we were meant to be together. Is there any chance this could just be a temporary thing? I'm afraid to ask.. I feel like maybe he just needs some space, and I should give him a chance to miss me.. I don't want to seem needy, and I'm also afraid of the answer. I don't want to get hurt any more. What should I do?
I am sorry you are in this situation.
It is important that he know that you still care for him and want him back. Hopefully you made that clear to him already. If not, then let him know somehow. Not that you are needy or desperate, but where you stand.
Other than that, it sounds like you are handling this well and since you work together, and see each other a lot, and are friendly, my guess is that he will get over his depression.
My advice is to continue doing what you have been doing. Take advantage of your friendship to let things return to the way they were. And, remember that for some people the Holidays are very stressful. Pay attention to how he is reacting to Holiday stress. If he seems eager to take part in Holiday activities then use that as a way to share feelings. Otherwise, hang back.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com