getting over my ex
Visitor's Question from a 21-30 year old Male
first of all thanks for reading this and now straight to the point:
my ex and i have been separated for more than 3 years, but i still think i have feelings for her. even though we were separated we would still see each other even though she was with another man. well in one of those occasions we had sex and ended up pregnant and now we have a 2year old baby (the baby is mine DNA test proved it). her bf forgave her for her infidelity so we now only talk about the baby. but the problem for me is that not too long ago she recently cheated on her bf with me again......she still with that guy but every now and then she would send me mixed signals that she wants something more than talk......and im too dumb enough to sometimes follow her on that....so i just need to get over her and concentrate on the baby only.....but its hard i still have feelings for her and dont know what to do.......i need advice
Sorry you are still in this situation after three years.
My advice is the same as before-- put your daughter's well being above everything else and stop cheating with your ex no matter how tempting it is.
Since this has gone on so long, and since your daughter will make it impossible for you to cut contact with your ex completely, I would also recommend that you go to a professional counselor who specializes in relationships.
Give this counselor a chance to help you because there is only a limited amount of help you can get through the Internet. You have written 22 questions into this site over the past three years. That is a very good thing because that is the purpose of this site. But Internet advice can only go so far and after all this time the problem persists. That is why I am suggesting a counselor.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com