Is this worth it?Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
Hi. I'm a Junior in high school and like most guys these days, I really like this one girl. She's in the same grade as I am and we do share one class together. She already knows I like her and so do half of the juniors at school. I kinda have the feeling she might share feelings back, since she gets all nervous and stuff when I stand next to her or around her. But what's stopping me from talking to her more is her friends...they hate me or something. They apparently think she is too good for me, which i don't know if its true since we're both quite popular. A lot of guys like her, but her friends aren't as popular. Since we have a bunch of mutual friends, I told my friends to keep an eye out and tell me if something is said about me. So...a day later one of my friends has a conversation with one of her friends. He told me exactly what she said: "Do you really think she likes...him?!" in a disgusted manner. Apparently she thought it was a joke or something. This friend of her's is really bugging me and standing in my way of me and her. Her other friends don't think I'm that hot either, but at least they don't laugh AT me when I'm around their group. They talk about me and stare at me a lot..I have a strong feeling (and so do my friends) that they're talking trash and making fun of me behind my back. The girl I like, though, isn't always part of those conversations. Do you think it's worth the effort and embarrassment to keep going for her? She might like me, but obviously her friends think I'm ugly and am a joke. Even, today, on my BIRTHDAY, tht one friend of her's joked about my appearance (not in a flirty way) TO MY FACE... The girl i like was with some other friends too and they all just kinda watched. And it just made me feel like crap...worst birthday ever!
It's nice that you like this girl. And, HAPPY BIRTHDAY! :-)
But you are not going to get anywhere with her until you find a way to contact her directly. That way you can cut out the people who are standing in your way.
It won't be easy to do, but love doesn't usually come easy, especially with someone you have little connection with. Make this a priority in your life. If you can get her to like you then her friends will have to go along with it.
Ask her if you can text her or be friends on FB. If she says "yes" then you have the opportunity to get to know her. Who knows, maybe she is dying for you to ask.
If she says "no" then you can ease your mind of this girl and stop agonizing over her and her friends. There are many other girls who would be delighted to have you as a boyfriend.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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