Getting Closer to my Female Friend
Visitor's Question from a 13-15 year old Male
There's this girl and we've been friends since the start of junior high. We're now a couple years into high school and I think I've fallen in love with her. We talk fairly regular and were the closest just before summer break. We exchanged phone numbers and said we'd call each other through the summer but I was so busy with work I never really got around to it. Anyways the school year got back going and when I saw her the first day I knew I've fallen un love with her. We got back talking like before and we've grown pretty close again which is awesome. I never really thought of her as a possible girlfriend but it was one of those moments straight out of a movie where I knew she's the one. Anyways I have this friend that use to be friends with me and moved away a couple years ago but we still keep in good touch and I discussed this girl with her on an online chat. This seemed to get her excited so she wanted to know the e-mail of this girl so not having any clue anything was wrong she goes and adds this girl I like.
After a bit of small talk my friend gets into relationship talk. She asked this girl I like all about what kind of guy she likes and I fit the description perfectly so my friend took a chance. She came clear and told this girl I like, the real reason she added her. She said I didn't have anything to do with it and that she was trying to hook me up with a good girl. She said I was an old friend and that I'd mentioned how fun it was to be with this girl I like and that she's a cool person and that seemed to spark an interest from the girl I like.
Earlier my friend had found out that this girl I like kinda likes someone else but that's no big deal. She said it wasn't serious yet and wasn't sure if it would happen and when I was mentioned it almost seemed like she hadn't thought of me before as a possible bofriend because we were such good friends so now this might change that. The girl I like said she wasn't sure what she'd say if I were to ask her out and I was the nicest guy and was good looking just she's seen me as a friend for so long she doesn't know if she could picture going out with me. I don't know how to proceed from here I mean she still single and I don't think this connection with this guy she said will be too serious.
I'm a regular reader if the questions and advice you guys give out an think you do an excellent job. I know what I'll be told is to start doing fun stuff and just hang out and eventually we'll move into a romantic relationship. I don't know if that's the best idea because I've tried that before and it hasn't worked for me well, so I'm looking for another suggestion. I just don't want to ruin things between us but I really love her not because she's beautiful(although she is)but because she's smart and nice and just plain an awesome girl.
So there's my trouble I think this girl and me could be together for a long ime if we got a relationship started and I want more then anything to have that. I'm just a better person when I'm with her and I think something could work out but I just need a spark to get the relationship going so I want to know what I should do? Thank-you for your time I really appreciate it.
I really am going to stay to do fun stuff, hang out and move into a romantic relationship. That's what you want, right? I'm not sure what went wrong the last time, but remember not all people were meant to be romantic couples. Maybe the last time it didn't work because the girl wasn't right for you. If this girl here IS right for you then it will work. Take her to romantic movies. Go to romantic dinners. Hug her hello and goodbye. Show her daily through your actions that you are fun and snuggly to be with. Then keep increasing the snuggle factor to show her that you are prime boyfriend material too.
-- from Lisa
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com