My friend's friends
Visitor's Question from a 31-40 year old Female
I like this guy I knew through my friend.We all go to the same university.My friend is married and has three kids but she only came to the UK for studies and her husband and kids are in their country. I am not sure if they are only friends or there is something more.For example, she left her stuff at my place when she went holiday, and went she came to pick them up she came with him for help, thats fine, but the day before that she rang me using his phone and it was a saturday evening. Also when I asked her if she wanted to go out the next weekend she told me she is busy because she just came back from holiday but then I saw her with him at the shopping centre that weekend.I was with my friends so I pretended I didn't see them. I rang her when i was in university and she was also there so we decided to meet at the cafe. She told me I was with this guy and I asked him to leave as he talks a lot.I thought she might be jealous of me and then I told her i just find him not very open minded person(I just wanted her not to think I am interested). She told me she finds him the same as he always tells her not to wear revealing clothes ( thats how she always wear)and i also told her that when she came to pick her stuff with him he was flirting with me.I felt she didn't like it and told me he doesnt like it when she talks to guys but he does look at girls. She then said who is he to tell me how to wear I just see him as my younger brother. I am confused because I know my friend is very flirtatious with guys and also doesn't behave like a married woman. She also lied to one guy before that she is single.She gave one guy my number and when i told her he is trying with me amd I am not interested she told me she wanted to be with me but I didn't want him and then I gave him your number and that she is sorry. Also one guy was intrested with me and told her that he finds me attractive, she told me that but also said that this giuy wanted to be with her but she refused.I am looking for a serious relationship and its hard for me to meet guys. She has many male friends but sometimes I think if I meet someone through her she will just spoil it for me as she flirts a lot. What should I do I am interested to get to know this guy from uni.Am I just thinking they are together? Should I trust my friend?..I have this guy's number(she used it to call me)should I call him?or try to meet him in uni? I am confused please advice.
My advice is to look for your own guys AND also take advantage of the ones she sends your way. Her behavior with this one guy you like is strange. You might as well test the waters by calling him. You have nothing to lose.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com