Making a move
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Male
This is my situation.
I started college about a year ago and I met this girl that I really like. I think I may even be in love. I became friends with her the minute we met so I know we both like each other. The thing is I had decided to ask her out through an email for valentines day. What I didn't realize was that she was with someone else. She ended up saying no and said "I love hanging out with you but thats about it". Its been over a year and she's single now. We hangout a lot and we have been happy everyday we hangout. Thing is I want to become more than friends. I do not know if that statement of hers has changed since then. My question is should I ask her again and how would I go about that in this kind of situation? I have full intentions of asking her again. I just don't want to screw this one up because I have never felt this way about anyone before. I would really love for this to work out.
Give her enough time to get over her ex. She is probably not ready to jump into another serious relationship right now.
But, make sure she knows how you feel. Tell her you know she needs time but that you have strong feelings for her. She probably already knows since it is very difficult to hide emotions from someone you are so close to.
When you tell her, she will give you feedback that will tell you what to do. The major thing to avoid is to put a lot of pressure on her to make up her mind immediately like you did last time. Make a move but do it gently.
She will appreciate your understanding that she needs time.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com