need advice!!!! help!!!!
Visitor's Question from a 16-20 year old Female
Hi im having trouble alot of trouble with my boyfriend. we have been together for more than a year. in the whole year we have been together he has never asked about how many past kicks(people ive made out with) have i had until last nite.i answered back pretty rudely saying why should it matter. hes hurt now bc of the fact i didnt answer the quest and because he is worried dat he is in some sort of 'list'. im in love with him and im not sure if he sees that and how much ive changed in the sense that im not the girl that would cheat on him ever even though ive done it in the past before i knew him. and ive done everything i could do to have him see that im in love with him. how can i make it better please help=.(
The question of past romances often comes up between partners. It is natural curiosity. The fact that you became defensive and rude only makes him more curious and worried. You should quickly correct this mistake and explain to him that you feel uncomfortable talking about the past. Tell him your past was perfectly normal (as it was) and had its ups and downs as all romances do but that talking about it brings up some bad memories and you would rather not discuss it at all.
If he is a caring person, he will respect your feelings.
Good luck! George
-- from George
One of Your Friendly Advisors at RomanceClass.com
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